7 Simple Steps to Achieving a Better Orgasm

Over the last 10 years I’ve been on a personal quest and journey to discovering my sexual, sensual and orgasmic potential. A path journey that is continuous, full of knowledge, growth and beautiful healing. Every single time I choose to self-love and discover what orgasmic potential is awaiting me, I am healing, and therefore, threading another woven piece of fabric in the tapestry of my own erotic sexuality.

Every time I share what I have studied, learned, and cultivated within myself with you and the other women of the world, another piece of me heals knowing I am giving back. There is magic and enrichment when you show up in pleasure and are willing to open yourself up to the pleasure that is stored within your soul.

Given my intensive and deeply involved relationship with pleasure, orgasm and sexuality over the past several years, I’ve come across many practices, techniques and treasured secrets, if you will. I always love sharing them because they’ve changed my WHOLE life in limitless ways. And somehow, it feels like it’s only the beginning.

Today I wanted to share simple 7 steps with you on how you can become more orgasmic alone or with your partner. Regardless of what your current situation is like it’s possible for you to discover your erotic self, sensuality and the highest heights and deepest depths of orgasmic pleasure. Your orgasms are limitless. That’s why I am writing this today. I want to show you some of the secrets that have helped me become a highly, multi and whole body orgasmic woman.

And before I was this highly orgasmic woman…I was different. I felt broken sexually. I was disconnected sexually, even though I had for so many years used sex as a form or love or an expression of love. I was in a place of shame and struggled accepting my worth and the pleasure of intimacy. The idea of experiencing anything other than a clitoral orgasm wasn’t in my sexual mind and that was something I kept in secrecy.

If you can relate to any of this, then it’s definitely time for you to embrace your inner goddess and unleash your erotic and sexual self.

Let’s dive into those 7 simple steps to better orgasms.

1. Exercise your orgasm muscles

"Kegels are the classic exercise for women who want to transform feeble orgasms into fabulous ones," sex educator Dorian Solot says. Locate these muscles in your pelvic floor by stopping yourself from peeing midstream. Then tone them by clenching when you’re not peeing. Do Kegels every day, ideally a few times a day. And keep breathing while you squeeze. Beginning a Jade Egg Practice, and adding it to your daily routine can help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and get you one step closer to epic orgasms.

2. Focus on breathing

Tantric sex may sound new-agey, but its central tenet—focused breathing—may boost your pleasure. "You can use your breath to channel your sexual energy.” Partners who breathe in tandem may slow the rush to orgasm and create a bigger buildup, which can intensify pleasure. Learn more

3. Explore erotica

Porn isn’t all about big penises and deep throats. Erotic communication with your partner, or mental fantasies with yourself, games, movies and books can be tasteful and arousing, and the more aroused you are, the better your orgasm.

4. Lube is your friend!

Even if you naturally produce your own, adding some Organic Coconut oil to your toy box isn’t a bad idea. It smells delicious, melts on contact with your skin and can change your sex life. Lube will be the key to your sexual success, there is no shame in the pleasure game! Add it to your foreplay. Use it for sensual massage. The list can go on. .

5. Practice some EPIC self-love.

If you don’t know how to pleasure yourself, your partner never will. Do the both of you a favor and get to know your body and what makes it tingle—alone—on a regular basis. Your body, your pussy and mainly your clitoris needs to be worshiped. If you’re not showing her the love and attention she deserves, you’re cheating yourself out of the best sex you can have.

6. Practice Edging / Delay the orgasm to achieve the best orgasm

The best orgasms come to those who wait. Edging is a method of controlling an orgasm to keep yourself or your partner on the brink for as long as possible. According to research by the Journal of Sex Research, men and women alike achieve the most satisfying climax when they take part in delayed gratification. Being on the brink is a way to tease your genitals until you just can't take it anymore, meaning a deeper and more satisfying orgasm is achieved.

7. Communicate

Again there is no shame in the sex game! Communicate your likes, dislikes, fantasies, and desires with your partner. Even if it’s kinky. Be honest and open with yourself and your partner and that openness will help you lower your inhibitions, allow you to be present in your pleasure and free your mind to achieving that mind blowing orgasm that you read about.

Learn more about embracing your inner sex goddess in my new book, Woman Awakened.